The Lessons We Learn

The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate. — Oprah Winfrey


When we leave this world we leave a footprint upon the heart of each who loved us. We each are gifted with experiences to teach us life lessons. In honor of my 51st birthday, I’ve written a few of mine down.

  1. Your relationship with others does not define who you are, but who you are defines your relationship with others.
  2. Mean what you say and say what you mean. Honesty really is the best policy. Don’t leave others guessing your intentions.
  3. Let go of what you’ve been told to find your own truth. Deep held beliefs can hinder personal growth.
  4. Everyone needs something bigger than themselves to believe in. When you have no hope, faith is still there keeping rhythm with your heartbeat.
  5. You gain nothing when you compromise your integrity.
  6. Pain is like a fertilizer. Give it time and everything will bloom again.
  7. Be true to yourself for it is the key to happiness.
  8. Think before you speak. Once spoken, you can’t take the words back.
  9. Trust your intuition. It will guide and protect you.
  10. Forgive others. Forgive yourself. Let it go.
  11. Value your community; good times or bad, this is where you will find your support system.
  12. Never be afraid to be alone. You must trust and believe in yourself to fully invest in others.
  13. Know when to speak and when to remain silent.
  14. It matters much more what you think of yourself than what others think of you.
  15. Know when to surrender and when to give it all you’ve got.
  16. The brave don’t always walk without fear; they just keep walking.
  17. Everything in life must be balanced. Too much of one thing or another can throw everything off kilter.
  18. Clothes do not make the man. Character is everything.
  19. Sharing and cooperating are just as important in the work place as they are on the playground.
  20. You are in control of no one but yourself. The choices of others, no matter what is said, thought or intended, is not a reflection of you.
  21. Your actions and reactions belong to you alone. Own your life.
  22. The difference between acceptance and tolerance is love.
  23. Give what you can when you can. There is always someone to benefit from your efforts.
  24. While it is important to give, it is equally important to receive gracefully. This goes for compliments as well as gifts.
  25. Be the energy and love you want returned to you.
  26. Sometimes the things that irritate you the most about other people are the very things you need to work on in your own life.
  27. Never place your own expectations on someone else.
  28. When you allow the quiet and stillness to settle over you, you become aware. It is in this mindfulness you experience the extraordinary in ordinary moments.
  29. Don’t forget to play like a child. The wonder will make your soul soar.
  30. You are creative. Even if you think you aren’t, your imagination flows through your daily life. Innovation is at your fingertips.
  31. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Laughter makes most things better.
  32. Worry doesn’t change anything.
  33. Your attitude is paramount to your gratitude of life.
  34. Be willing to bend but careful not to break.
  35. Never pass up the opportunity to give or receive a hug. The exchange of energy comforts all.
  36. Peace resides within you. It’s up to you to tap into it.
  37. The things that matter really aren’t things at all.
  38. Live life with conscious intention.
  39. Never stop questioning life; your growth depends on it.
  40. Just because you can’t imagine something does not make it impossible.
  41. Adventure is all about stepping out of your comfort zone. Life requires it at times.
  42. Family is established by love not blood.
  43. If you learn from a mistake it becomes a lesson.
  44. Never make someone earn respect. Offer it from the start.
  45. Choose to be happy. It really is that simple.
  46. Time shouldn’t be rushed through or turned back. Savor it.
  47. Compassion is vital in any relationship.
  48. Never feel guilty for resting your body, mind, and spirit.
  49. Be the best you can be. No one can make you shine but you.
  50. Never underestimate the importance of roots or the power of wings.
  51. Love really does make the world go round.

34 thoughts on “The Lessons We Learn

  1. There are wonderful aspects to growing older….like growing wiser! These are a treasure of wisdom. I enjoyed reading all of them….and agree with all of them too! I missed your birthday so my apologies. I hope it was a fantabulous day, my friend! xoxo

  2. Happy Birthday, Suzi. What a fabulous list you’ve compiled — each one is a treasure trove of wisdom. I’m going to save your list and re-read it from time to time, as these statements make wonderful uplifting affirmations!

  3. Suzi – thanks so much for this list. A perfect complement to my spiritual direction session this morning. An emotional packed month awaits me – and I will carry this list with me in my backpack.

  4. Happy Birthday to you!
    Happy Birthday to you!
    Happy Birthday, dear Suzi!
    Happy Birthday toooooooooooo yoooooooou!

    This is an AWESOME list, which all of us can reflect on and learn something from. Especially loved #’s 9, 13, 31, and 45.

    Happy Birthday 51st, my friend.

    Cheers to you!

  5. Wow what a great list! Thanks for sharing it … I tend to struggle with #17 (keeping balance) the most .. I blame the school schedule (9 months extreme amounts of work/3 months free).
    Happy Birthday Suzi

    • I think we all struggle with balance in one form or another. I can see how your schedule can do that. I can only imagine people who work night shift and have weekends off with family must struggle.

  6. Happy birthday Suzicate. I especially enjoy your emphasis on character. Sadly, it seems in short supply these days. I do admit to struggling with your #4. In terms of placing my faith in God or one who is bigger than me it makes sense, but I would have trouble putting too much faith in others. Being human and all, it can be a rather disappointing endeavor (obviously including myself).

  7. Happy belated, birthday day, Susan! I hope you had a wonderful day. 🙂

    So much wisdom in your list of life lessons. Can’t pick a favourite because they’re all terrific

    • It was good. We were in the midst of a horrible storm but the hubby cooked a fabulous dinner. We had celebrated his b-day, mine, and a good friends’ the weekend prior.

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