“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt
Why is it so difficult for people to own their actions? A person who admits they’ve wronged another or made a mistake earns more respect than someone who points blame elsewhere.
The choices you make and the consequences that follow belong to you. When one continuously justifies their actions they will fail to clearly see their responsibility. In doing this they will continue the same path of behavior. When you stop making yourself a victim you will rise above the ashes.
Examine the situation. What can you learn from this? What part did you play in this? Did you provoke someone? Insult them? Did you take something that belonged to them? Did you invade their space? What is your relationship with said person? Do you have a long turbulent history with this person? Chances are slim that you are a random target.
Everyone has a dark side. Emotions often feed this part of us we fear or dislike. The bottom line is when we know the things we don’t like about ourselves it gives us the power to improve ourselves. It makes us more aware of the choices we make and the actions we take. We not only have the power to own our lives but we have the power to make the life we own as peaceful as we dare to be.
Peace cannot be found in the eye of the storm. When we change behaviors that no longer serve us we earn trust in our relationships.
Secure people own their actions. They learn from their mistakes. They conduct themselves in ways which enrich their relationships and end relationships that don’t serve conducive to peace and personal growth.
When you find yourself in unwanted drama, accept your position in it. Apologize for any wrongdoing or speak your peace. Let it go and move on. Until you let go, you will never move on. Until you move on, you will never find peace.