“Come to the edge, he said. They said: We are afraid. Come to the edge, he said. They came. He pushed them and they flew.” ~Guillaume Apollinaire
In this round world of ours we create edges of our own. There are borders we refuse to cross, branches we are afraid to climb, and rivers we only dare to swim. Yet, we think about doing these things.
Often it comes down to determination. It starts with intention and continues with commitment.
Have you ever read a five hundred page book? Chances are you didn’t do it in one sitting, but read a few chapters a day. If you enjoyed it well enough to finish it, you were glad you put in the time.
Every day, people achieve what they presumed to be the impossible for them. People who are afraid of water might not jump right into swimming lessons, but start with getting their feet wet. Some who say they can’t run start out walking down the street and in time end up competing in marathons.
What is it you want to do? Lose weight? Learn to sew? Write a book? Play the piano? Sing? Paint? Take photographs? Take the first step today. Do it again tomorrow. Take it a step farther the day after that and so on. You can do whatever it is you want as long as you intend to do it.
Once we pass the edge, we usually find it wasn’t nearly as scary as we anticipated.
Take the plan out of your head, and put yourself physically into the plan.
“The world can only be grasped by action, not by contemplation. The hand is the cutting edge of the mind.” ~ Diane Arbus
Whatever we expect with confidence becomes our own self-fulfilling prophecy. ~ Brian Tracy
Funny how most of us take criticism to heart while we barely acknowledge praise. We can have one person disapprove and ten who compliment our efforts. What words do we hang onto and replay? We begin to believe those words. We wear it around our necks until it becomes a part of us.
We are each gifted immeasurably, yet many of us lack the confidence to use these gifts.
There is power in belief. The thing to remember is we also have the power to tear apart those negative self-beliefs. We have a choice in what we believe. We can reinvent ourselves simply by changing our attitude about ourselves.
Don’t dismiss the tiny voice who says you can do it. Listen in the silence. Hear the universe cheering you on. Know God created you with love.
Believe in the beauty of authenticity.
Believe in your purpose.
Believe you are worthy.
Believe you are loved.
Believe in yourself.
The sea does not reward those who are too anxious, too greedy, or too impatient. One should lie empty, open, choiceless as a beach – waiting for a gift from the sea. ~Anne Morrow Lindbergh
Not long ago I needed to fill my car up with gas. All the lines were backed up with at least three to five cars waiting. I pulled into the nearest line and waited my turn. As I got out to gas up I heard horns blasting and a ruckus behind me. Apparently the guy directly behind me cut off four cars to get his gas, and the other patrons were irate. The guy behind him told him he was rude and called him an idiot. However, a guy in the next isle taunted him with names and slurs the entire time I gassed up. My Subaru was empty while the Mercedes who’d cut the others off only needed a splash of gas. The problem for him was this is the type of station that once you reach the pumps you can’t pull around the person in front of you to leave…you must wait. I’m not sure what this guy accomplished other than causing more irritation to himself and others. While I admit, it was in bad taste for the one guy to ride him the whole time, it allowed Mercedes guy time to think about what he’d done. Did he feel a sense of entitlement that he shouldn’t have to wait his turn like the other patrons? Did he not realize he was cutting others off? I didn’t see the actual offense, but only heard about it in the aftermath of accusations. The Accused never offered an apology or excuse. He totally ignored the hecklings while he pumped his gas. Perhaps that was the smarter thing to do though it did not earn him any points with the offended.
I often wonder about people who zip by in traffic and end up waiting at the same stoplights as everyone else. Speeding doesn’t get them where they’re headed any quicker when you’re in a busy city. Perhaps patience, virtue that it is, has also become almost a lost art.
Technology has birthed a “me now” society. People want instant gratification. They want results without waiting. The courtesy of taking turns has blown out with the wind. I do realize there are still many courteous and patient people, but I see less and less evidence of it these days. I mostly hear people complaining about how long something takes rather than how much they enjoyed reading/conversing/resting while they waited.
I try to remember the old adages, “Good things come to those who wait” and “Anything worth doing is worth doing well”. I know when I get hasty or take shortcuts, not only do I make mistakes but I also miss out on living right then and there.
It seems to me I’ve become much more patient as I’ve gotten older. Perhaps it’s one of those life lessons, or maybe practice has paid off. Or maybe I just don’t feel as rushed as I did when I was trying to juggle, home, work, kids, marriage, and a social calendar all at once. How about you? Do you feel you are more or less patient than you once were? What do you think has attributed to the change?
Slow down. Look around. Listen. You never know what you’re missing if you don’t take the time to be aware of life around you.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. ~Khalil Gibran
Birds of a feather flock together.
As we begin our social lives we start in play groups and as we age we evolve into groups of the same intellectual standards, social issues, sports interests, and hobbies. We even group ourselves by political affiliation, financial status, occupations, and faith.
We depend on one another for company and support. We draw strength, inspiration, and knowledge from one another. We must never forget or underestimate the value of embracing the differences among us as well.
I have people I enjoy relating with about fiber projects, and others I bounce writing ideas and critiques with. Then I have those I can always depend on for a laugh and lift of spirit. And there are those who deeply know me and accept me just as I am. What a beautiful thing it is to have more than one flock in which to belong.
I enjoy my times of solitude, but I greatly enjoy my time with those whom I connect on many levels. Some, I feel are extensions of myself. If we must weather storms, who better to do it with than those of our own choosing.
Do you have a flock, several flocks, or do you prefer to always fly alone?
Here’s hoping you have a blessed weekend of love, connection, and familiarity.
“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt
Why is it so difficult for people to own their actions? A person who admits they’ve wronged another or made a mistake earns more respect than someone who points blame elsewhere.
The choices you make and the consequences that follow belong to you. When one continuously justifies their actions they will fail to clearly see their responsibility. In doing this they will continue the same path of behavior. When you stop making yourself a victim you will rise above the ashes.
Examine the situation. What can you learn from this? What part did you play in this? Did you provoke someone? Insult them? Did you take something that belonged to them? Did you invade their space? What is your relationship with said person? Do you have a long turbulent history with this person? Chances are slim that you are a random target.
Everyone has a dark side. Emotions often feed this part of us we fear or dislike. The bottom line is when we know the things we don’t like about ourselves it gives us the power to improve ourselves. It makes us more aware of the choices we make and the actions we take. We not only have the power to own our lives but we have the power to make the life we own as peaceful as we dare to be.
Peace cannot be found in the eye of the storm. When we change behaviors that no longer serve us we earn trust in our relationships.
Secure people own their actions. They learn from their mistakes. They conduct themselves in ways which enrich their relationships and end relationships that don’t serve conducive to peace and personal growth.
When you find yourself in unwanted drama, accept your position in it. Apologize for any wrongdoing or speak your peace. Let it go and move on. Until you let go, you will never move on. Until you move on, you will never find peace.
“You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you might find, you get what you need.” ~Mick Jagger
These waters are anything but still. They hiss, gurgle, murmur, and babble as they bubble between rocks, push their way through walls of sticks and stones, and splash against the banks. This aquatic orchestra is solace to my soul. This bit of nature’s noise stills my mind.
Oldest and I spent some time at my mother’s house this weekend. We hiked the family land and collected a few rock treasures. I enjoyed the opportunity to share our family history with him.
Dirt Man and I often took our kids on family hikes, but it’s been years since I’d gotten to do this with Oldest. I did get to hike a few years back with Youngest and equally enjoyed that outing as well. It seems as our kids have grown up their lives have developed new interests which have paved a path distinctly their own. It was wonderful to reexamine roots together.
This hike wasn’t preplanned, nor was it something I thought I needed. However, it fulfilled me in a way I hadn’t expected. I suppose we connected on a level we used to, before life became serious. We visited the past, lived in the present, and pondered the future. Nature has a way of balancing life.
Here’s hoping your week is filled with unexpected pleasures, chance encounters, and finding what you need rather than what you want.