A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow. – William Shakespeare
Forming relationships with some people happens quickly. Often we have similar interests or outlooks on life. Due to personalities, time, distance, and other life circumstances some friendships require a lot of effort to maintain while others hold their own.
Have you ever met that someone (friend or significant other) you were instantly attracted to? You felt this gravitational pull, perhaps intrigue or simply a comfort about them, something that made you feel as if you’d known them all your life or you wanted to know them on a deeper level.
Most of us claim our spouses/significant others as our best friend. We often say they complete us. I’m one of those people who’ve said this. The more I’ve thought about it I realize I am not completed by my husband so much as I am complemented by him and vice versa. He brings out the best in me by challenging me to do new things and reach higher levels all the while respecting my individuality.
I think we often forget we are whole as we are. We don’t need anyone to complete us; however the people we surround ourselves with should be ones who support our achievements, commend our efforts, and edify and soothe our souls.
Don’t be afraid to loosen the binds to those who strain you. We don’t usually feel we can do that with family relations. If we are unable to limit contact with them, we can control how we allow their behavior to make us feel. What they do is their responsibility…how I feel about it is mine. I’ve given this much thought. I’ve decided not to allow other people’s bad habits or conduct dictate my happiness…I refuse to allow myself to be angry at another’s lack of morals, nor will I permit myself to be manipulated into doing things not from my heart.
Strengthen the bonds with those whose mere presence in your life encourage you to do your best and be your best.
Take the time to friend yourself. See to your own needs, physical and spiritual. You will be a better friend to others because of it.