Are your apologies congruent with your actions? Do you say one thing and do another? Sending conflicting messages? Or perhaps someone is doing this to you.
It’s difficult to forgive the unapologetic. But until you do, your life will remain stagnant. You can’t flourish in a broken system.
Forgiving doesn’t mean you are excusing ill behavior. You are simply moving past it.
Withholding forgiveness and suppressing anger is like letting poison seep into your body. Eventually it manifests itself in other ways, impairing emotional and physical health.
We often save others at the cost of ourselves. We must learn to release the offenses that hold us down.
Sometimes we are wronged and deeply hurt and forgiveness doesn’t seem like an option. When we dwell on pain, it eats away at us and causes us to be bitter.
It’s normal to feel anger and pain, but we can’t allow it to build up and suffocate us.
Though difficult to regain a broken trust, we can still choose not to let resentment rule our lives.
It’s easier to let go of pain than it is to hang on to hurt and anger. We benefit from letting go of grudges as we free ourselves by forgiving. When we stop focusing on our pain and anger we can get on with life. This isn’t to say we’re opening ourselves up for more hurt involving this person. It is merely to say we’ve let this situation go.
Sometimes we must distance ourselves from toxic people. It’s alright to protect ourselves by establishing boundaries or limiting content. After all what is experience if we refuse to learn from it?
We must realize the infraction was most likely about them not us. This perspective makes forgiveness much easier. Not taking things personally allows our hearts to open and forgiveness to enter. Though we can’t change the way people act, we can change the way we react to the things they do and say.
Both apologies and forgiveness must be sincere, heart felt and soul given. It allows both parties to move on.
Peace does not enter an angry soul. To forgive is to heal. To heal is to invite peace into our lives.
Living in the Gap
April 11, 2012 – Noisy Breakfast
Chomp. Crunch. Chew. Gulp. Guzzle. Spoon by spoon, the racket continues. It’s too early for this clatter. Is it me or the cereal that’s so noisy? Oh, that’s right, the cereal goes snap, crackle, pop…sorry, guess it’s me!