We depend on friendship much in the way we depend on dinnerware…yes, I said dinnerware. And Yes, I am going there. Friends also fall very much into the same categories of china, every day and fine.
We have friends that we’re in contact with on a daily basis. Those are most often our “go to” people. They might have a chip here or there, but we wouldn’t trade them for the world. They are like family to us. They are dependable and trustworthy. And some of those same people have been around forever. You’ve been through both the good and bad times together and to the ends of the earth for one another. They carry the rigid and lasting qualities of porcelain. And then there is bone china which is a bit thinner, but more durable and of even better quality.
While I’m at it, I may as well talk about disposable goods. The kind you use and throw away. We all have acquaintances that we can take or leave. We might have fun with them on occasion, but we have no emotional connection with them. And then there are the people who slip into our lives at one time or another and disappear. Sometimes we never know quite why they were there until much later in life, even if then. And there are even those people that are totally deceptive as they enter our lives under false pretenses. Those are like imitation china. They appear to be something they are not, and it is not obvious until under intense scrutiny.
They say that the marks of chinaware are often the least reliable sources of identification. The mark of chinaware is the pattern label. Hence, some might wear the label of “friend” and then betray us later. We often refer to the opinions of others when choosing our pattern. It’s pattern label might refer to it’s endurance, only to find out it’s not true at all. The name may carry a mark of reliability and prove otherwise. We might pick up a lesser known brand and find that it more than serves our purpose. We also might not be looking for the same qualities that are important to others. If you’re lucky you’ll find a one of a kind pattern that can’t be duplicated. Sometimes, you have to look past the label and let it’s attributes speak for itself.
Today, I am thankful for everyday fine china. I am smiling today because of four (yes, four!) telephone conversations with a good friend. This is a friend I’ve known since before I became the me I am today. We’ve been through times of upheaval and times of great joy together though we don’t always see eye to eye. We have the same values in life, but we approach life differently as we don’t always focus on the same thing. We’ve even suffered times of drought, yet we always come back to one another for sustenance and maintenance. We’ve been angered and perplexed by one another’s decisions. We’ve felt another’s pain. We’ve taken pride in one another’s accomplishments. We’ve inspired one another. At one time, we were almost inseparable. The fact is that we seldom see each other anymore, but we talk often. We continue our journey of friendship together. I don’t question or examine it. I accept it for what it is, and I’m thankful.
While fine china makes a statement of elegance, so does a good friend. My every day china is fine china. Others may not know their value, but those of us who have it do.