Are You On Sale?

Only when we give joyfully, without hesitation or thought of gain, can we truly know what love means. -Leo Buscaglia
 
We all come with a price tag. Whether we want to admit it or not. It occurs in politics, policies of organizations, churches, schools, corporations, families, and relationships. It comes in the form of bartering, bargaining, tit for tats, and you scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours. We compromise. We settle. We give, and we take. It’s a vicious cycle.
 
This time of year is considered a season of giving. Are you a selfish giver or a selfless giver? Do you give in order to receive or do you give from the goodness of your heart, not expecting anything in return?
 
So, what is your cost? Does it have to be monetary amount or are you willing to give yourself in time and talents? Will you sacrifice to help others? I mean will you forego that Starbucks latte and treat someone cold and hungry to a meal? Or must there be something in it for you?Giving feels good, not only to the receiver but to the giver. It feels so much better than receiving. Doesn’t it make  your heart feel good to know you’ve helped someone in need? A smile or sentiment of appreciation, or if the gift is anonymous, just knowing you’ve helped someone should lift your spirits. If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of a much needed and unexpected gift when times were hard, you know exactly how much your donation means.
 
 “Kind words do not cost much. Yet they accomplish much.” -Blaise Pascal
Being kind to others cost you absolutely nothing at all. Not everyone has money to offer or material gifts to pass on, but everyone can lift others with a smile or gentle words. Manners go a long way. When I shop this time of year, I generally encounter two types of people. There are the rude ones who push others around with angry words and gestures, and there are the ones with smiles on their faces and pleasant greetings. You better believe the type I encounter definitely sets the mood that I’ll wear home. If you open a door for someone or let them go first, generally you’ll get a smile in return. Kindness is contagious! I often see people fighting over parking places. Personally, I don’t get into that kind of ruckus. I purposely park a bit farther back because I know I can use the exercise, and I’ve never found anyone fighting over those spaces!
  

“No vision and you perish; No Ideal, and you’re lost; Your heart must ever cherish Some faith at any cost. Some hope, some dream to cling to, Some rainbow in the sky, Some melody to sing to, Some service that is high.” – Harriet Du Autermont

I could not post about giving to others without telling you what my friend (the mother of my Godchildren), her husband, and their children, ages 4 and 2, are doing for the twenty-five days of Christmas. Every single day, they are giving of themselves, or making, buying, and delivery goods to the people in need in their community. I have to add that they have just moved to this town, and they have pushed themselves to get out in their community and make a difference. They started their first day off with the mom donating blood by her son’s request to his school’s blood drive. The children have twice bought and delivered dinner for a kind homeless man. They have bought hats, gloves, and food for a winter drive at school. They purchased and decorated small Christmas trees and delivered them to a nursing home. They delivered stockings of toothpaste, brushes, and hats to the Salvation Army. These are just a few of the things they have done. They have plans for each day, and sometimes (like dinner for the homeless man, or money being dropped into the kettle) little extras occur. I am so proud of my friends for teaching their children the love and joy of giving to others without question.

While I can’t claim to have done all these things myself this year,  I must say I am truly inspired to do more than I have. I used to do these types of things with my children when they were younger. We loved making Christmas boxes at church to send to children overseas. We did the Angel Tree gifts, and the senior gifts at the nursing homes. I admit I have not done any of those things this year or donated my time or services to any organizations. However, I usually do still make monetary donations. This year, I have an elderly friend that I want to make sure is not lonely or left out this season. And I plan to bake and deliver my usual array of goodies. Not much on the big scale of things, but I know it will bring a smile to some faces, and a certain friend’s heart will be warmed knowing she is loved and remembered this Christmas. 
 
Are you wearing a price tag this season or are you on special for the holidays?
 

 

Christmas Elves delivering trees to a nursing home.

30 thoughts on “Are You On Sale?

    • Anonymous is good, too…many times better. They actually dropped their trees off at the nursing home, and when asked for their names, told them it was anonymous…and the kids like that,too, was kinda’ like playing Secret Santa for them. They are the best. The kids are very accepting of all they meet which is another good lesson.

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  2. When the boys were little we got them involved with food drives and the Angel Tree. It’s wonderful now to see them take the initiative to volunteer through school. Also now it’s easier to donate money because the boys are old enough to understand the concept. And yes, anonymous is route we usually take.

    • Isn’t it a wonderful feeling to witness generosity on their part, from their hearts not because we’re prodding them?! Though I love the concept of helping individuals, the donation I feel really good about is when we give to the little (struggling at times) country church that hubby and I were married in. He grew up there( with a slow economy and many families have moved attendance to a larger more centrally located church) and really don’t want to ever see the church closed.

  3. What a lovely post and what a great idea. Many of us complain, but few of us make the effort to try to be a part of the change we seem to desperately want. I’ve been known to give anonymously. if we give for the sake of giving, there is no need to tell others of our acts of kindness.

    • When they grow up they will carry those same wonderful values into their families as well. I don’t get into all the commercialism or materialistic values that go hand in hand with most of society. I try to keep it simple and meaningful.

  4. Okay, first I have to say that I so enjoyed reading the quote by Leo, I love reading his books and watching his videos.

    “Only when we give joyfully, without hesitation or thought of gain, can we truly know what love means. -Leo Buscaglia”

    Your friends are such an inspiration!

    Since I adore children, I give to Toy for Tots. The apartment building I live in places a box in the lobby each year, so that throughout the month of December we can give whatever we wish.

    Fabulous post, Suzi!

    Have a wonderful weekend!

    X

  5. Great quote to start this uplifting post. The meaning of Christmas is so easily lost these days. What your friend and her family is doing this year is inspiring. Thanks for reminding us what this season is all about and giving us some ideas on ways to spread the love around … hopefully for longer than just during the holidays.

  6. That’s an awesome thing to do! I actually have much more fun when I get to give gifts. We’re collecting toys for the local childrens’ hospital this year. My hubby and my oldest will deliver them to the hospital. We’re also hoping to raise enough money to help someone pay for their medical expenses there. Anything to ease a child’s pain and make them feel loved on Christmas day is worth it!

  7. My latest post is titled “Volunteering” and you have pretty much commented on it here with your entire post! 🙂 Mine is more general, i.e. not necessarily about this time of year, but I suppose I heard or saw something that prompted it.

    You definitely have the Christmas spirit, and a very good one it is! We’ll all think twice about our opportunities to give.

    • I will definitely be over to check it out. My spirit is much better this year. For some reason it took me all the way to about a week before Christmas to come out of some kind of funk I was in.

  8. Awesome! Since I don’t actually have an income my monetary giving has decreased. I am sad this year because I am being VERY selfish. I am so obsessed with my toe healing that I am doing NOTHING. I like to participate in The Family Giving Tree – around here they use volunteers to wrap and whatever, but I can’t. I am missing being able to volunteer. Next year I will sign up for double duty.

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