LOL Promp: You won’t read this anywhere
I have found the best way to give advice to your children is to find out what they want and then advise them to do it. ~Harry S. Truman
I remember how my mother so often offered unsolicited advice when I was growing up. Some of it was well informed from experience, and some was nothing more than old wives tales. I always swore that I would be a hip parent, and there would never be a generation gap between my children and myself. Well, time and experience made a liar out of me. It’s really weird being on the other side of the generation gap and not being appreciated for the wisdom my many years of experience has earned me. I have learned that it is more important to be a parent and a loving guide and supporter than merely a friend.
My own children are not usually good at taking advice unless asked or if the opinion is actually what they wanted to hear. It is often one of those things that when they don’t follow the suggestions I give them and things don’t pan out, it’s everything I can do not to say “I told you so!” However, I am usually too busy trying to help them find a solution to the new complication that has arisen from doing exactly the opposite of my advice. So, they’re hard headed. I blame it on my husband’s side of the family. He blames it on mine. Maybe, they just got a double dose.
Sometimes, they make very good decisions on their own. Sometimes, they make bad choices. Don’t we all? Usually, the choices that aren’t so good are based from their hearts and not their heads. I’m not talking about love but friendships in general. Reverse psychology still works to a degree. If I am adamantly opposed to something or someone, I have learned to keep my mouth shut. It is much better for them to learn on their own. They have actually been known to come back and tell us that they knew we were right or knew what we were trying to get across without actually saying anything. I’ve found that my kids will often put their friends before their families and even before themselves. I’ve learned to pretend to like everyone whether I do or not. I keep my mouth shut. I remember as a teen being that more enthralled with the “bad boys” just because I was told to stay away from them.
These are just a few generalized opinions I have and have passed on to them. Not that they listen to anything I say!
*If your friend finds something wrong with every girl you like, chances are your friend is jealous.
*Don’t take the rap for your friends, chances are they wouldn’t do the same for you.
*Don’t let your life revolve around your friends, ten years or so out of high school you will probably not still be friends with them.
*If she doesn’t like dogs, think long and hard about whether or not you want to spend the rest of your life with her. If your dog doesn’t like her, hang it up. Dogs are a good judge of character.
*If she can handle a camping trip, she’s up for working through a marriage. If she loves camping, she’s a keeper.
*If she knows how to check the oil in her car, she’ll save you money in the long run.
*If she cooks for you (and it doesn’t come out of a box!), you’ve got yourself a winner.
*If she says her Mama is crazy or calls her a bad name, watch and make sure she’s not the one who is actually crazy.
*Seriously, don’t pick your mate according to her appearance. And if you insist on it, get a good look at her Mama because chances are that in twenty or thirty years she is going to look a lot like her.
All families are raised with nuggets of advice. Some are useful; some not. I guess only time will tell whether they deem my nuggets to be gems or gravel.