The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone. ~ Harriet Beecher Stowe
Do any of us really want to die with regrets? Worse yet, do we want a loved one to die without having made amends? If you have been stubborn, selfish, greedy, or treated the other person wrongfully, what have you gained?
Sometimes, limited contact or detachment is necessary in situations. I am speaking of circumstances created by insensitivity and pride. I am talking about relationship disintegration due to egotistical greed and the failure to compromise.
How thick is that wall between you? Can you just tear it down? Do you need to remove it brick by brick or board by board? Do you need to enlist the help of others? Whatever it takes, I’m sure it is not impossible.
“It is better to lose your pride with someone you love rather than to lose that someone you love with your useless pride.” `Unknown
Is it that difficult to apologize? Do you have the opportunity to make amends while both of you are healthy and coherent? A person’s dying hours should be surrounded by those he/she loves. If you wait until the other person is dying, it is most likely only conducive to lessening your guilt. Please don’t put off reconciliation. You might be missing many years of love and laughter together.
I have seen greed rip families apart. It is nasty. They’ve thrown away years of relationships all over money, land, and tokens of memory. Sadly, it’s usually the one who is getting the better end of the deal that ostracizes the other. Is it out of guilt? Petty quarrels between loved ones should not be left to escalate into dissolution of family.
Is there anyone you have cut from your life? Has anyone cut you from his/her life? Is he/she at fault? Are you at fault? Does it really matter who is at fault? Are you willing to forgive or be forgiven? Are you ready to start anew? Please, I beg you not to waste another day. Reach deep within yourself and find the love you once held for that person. Love doesn’t just disappear. Love is cleansing and forgiving. Love heals.
A Native American grandfather talking to his young grandson tells the boy he has two wolves inside of him struggling with each other. The first is the wolf of peace, love and kindness. The other wolf is fear, greed, and hatred. “Which wolf will win, grandfather?” asks the young boy. “Whichever one I feed.” is the reply. ~Native American Proverb quote