Walking The Walk, Talking The Talk, And Living The Life

Happy Fathers Day to my one and only, Dirt Man, the love of my life and father of our sons.

He didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it. ~Clarence Budington Kelland

There is certainly something in angling that tends to produce a serenity of the mind. ~Washington Irving
He taught them how to fish, how to choose a lure, bait the hook, and cast the rod. He taught them how to hunt, how to look for signs, how to safely use a gun, how to clean and care for the gun. But he also taught them that what they brought home was not nearly important as what they found while they were on the river bank or sitting in the woods. He taught them the importance of reflecting on one’s soul and the comfort of solitude.

Man’s heart away from nature becomes hard. ~Standing Bear
He shared the beauty, bounty, and power of nature through camping and hiking. He taught them to respect the land. He impressed upon them that the preparation of the hike or campout was as important as the event itself. He instilled them with confidence and survival skills to rely on in times of fear in the wilderness. He paved the way to enjoy the great outdoors in all four seasons.

Man is a tool-using Animal. Nowhere do you find him without tools; without tools he is nothing, with tools he is all. ~Thomas Carlyle
He passed on his automotive skills. He taught them to changes tires, oil, and antifreeze. He taught them how to pull an engine apart and put it back together. He taught them if you don’t how to do it and can’t find it on the internet, go to the library and get a book. He taught them to read the blueprints. He showed them that grease washes off with soap and water. And he taught them that if the job was truly over their head to call a mechanic.

The things I make may be for others, but how I make them is for me. ~Tony Konovaloff
He let them watch, participate, and learn the trade of woodworking. He let them help build furniture, and do home repairs. He trained them to operate his tools and equipment. He passed on the satisfaction of making something with their own hands and how to tenderly care for those made by their ancestors. He bequeathed family heritage through generations of turning and carving talent.

What we hope ever to do with ease, we must learn first to do with diligence. ~Samuel Johnson
He encouraged them to never give up, that persistence will pay off in the end. He told them if it was worth the time to visualize that it was worth the diligence to achieve. He gave them courage to try new things and supported them when they fell short. And he has proven he will always be there as long as their efforts are of good principle.

A knowledge of the path cannot be substituted for putting one foot in front of the other. ~M. C. Richards
He prepared them for recuperation of failure in the race of life. When they were small and fell down, he picked them up, dusted them off, and ran beside them. He taught them to keep running. He told them that sometimes the falls would be harder, maybe resulting in bruises, cuts, and broken bones. He told them that when those times occurred, they would mend and continue, that scars of experience would shape them, and no lesson learned was a wasted one. He trained them to be self-sufficient, but still he waits in the shadows. And if one of them should stumble and fall, he’ll be there if they’re unable to pick themselves back up.

“Every father should remember that one day his son will follow his example instead of his advice.”By example, he showed them that honesty reaps success and happiness. He taught them to deal with people fairly, regard them with respect, and never to burn their bridges. He was a role model by volunteering at church, leading organizations, and volunteering for community projects. He has shown them the grace of serving others and the gratitude of giving. He raised them to be productive members of society.

The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother. ~ Henry Ward Beecher
He has openly shown affection for me, their mother. He has held me in esteem by opening car doors and other gentlemanly mannerisms. He has assisted with household chores, shopping, raising children, and caring for ill family members. Most importantly, he has always been here for each of us.

Some people dream of success… while others wake up and work hard at it. ~Author Unknown
He has taught them the personal satisfaction of hard work and money earned. He taught them that no one should be above getting a little sweaty, dirty, or tired to make a living. Through responsibility and good work ethics, he has provided them with a plentiful life. He has taught them the value of money. He has taught them that money earned is much more appreciated than money gifted to them. They were never in need, yet they were not spoiled.

The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life. ~Richard Bach
He has loved and provided for his family. He has treated them with tenderness. He has laughed with them and played with them. And he has even occasionally fought with them, but through it he taught them to stand up for what they believe in. He has shown absolute joy and pride in very stage of their lives. He has trained them by example to be good fathers someday.

Dad, your guiding hand on my shoulder will remain with me forever. ~Author Unknown

****Fatherhood is pretending the present you love most is soap-on-a-rope. ~Bill Cosby
I must share with you one of the fondest memories, one of those that mark the true love of a father, one focused on the love of his son and not the opinions of others. When our oldest child was in kindergarten, he came home so proudly bearing this huge cardboard tie he made for his Daddy for Father’s Day. He had cut this out and colored it with his own little loving hands. With much excitement, he presented this to his Daddy early that Sunday morning. After thanking him, my husband proceeded to dress for church, and yes, he wore his one of a kind cardboard tie. I don’t know who beamed more that Sunday, the daddy or the child. Of course, he got lots of stares and comments at church. Some couldn’t believe he actually wore it, some complained that he made them look badly for not wearing theirs, and others smiled with admiration. Yes, I smiled.

45 thoughts on “Walking The Walk, Talking The Talk, And Living The Life

    • Thank you. The hubby willl…the boys aren’t yet interested in my writing. Maybe someday they’ll read my mother’s day tribute…probably not until they marry and have kids of their own!

  1. Happy father’s day to your wonderful husband! He sounds like the kind of person that continues to reveal new treasures to you from within, as the years go by. Wearing the cardboard necktie almost makes me cry – very loving and lovely too.

  2. Happy Father’s Day to Dirtman!

    Love that he wore that tie.

    This quote really spoke to me.

    “The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life. ~Richard Bach”

    Great post and tribute.

  3. What a wonderful and loving tribute to your husband. I feel exactly the same things for my soul mate and greatest lifeline…my loving, dynamic and compassionate husband Tim. It is amazing in this big wide world that we were both able to find people who fill out our other half with something new and different and yet very familiar too!

  4. Suzicate, I could sit and read your stories all day, if I had the time. This made me cry, and put a smile on my face at the same time. It really touch my heart. You have a wonderful husband and I would like to wish him a “Happy Father’s Day!” This is one holiday that I missed out of growing up due to my father not being with us, but I remember the little things we made at school I would bring home and give to my mom. Seem only fair since she was both Mother and Father to us. Your husband deserves all the honor and praise that you guys can give him. Thank you sweetie for sharing this lovely Father’s Day Story with us. You keep writing these wonderful stories.

  5. Aww, suzi that was just beautiful. I too am a little in the dark on Father figures (my father died when I was 5 & the girl’s Daddy has been gone over 2 years now). It sounds like DirtMan is someone many should aspire to be. What a beautiful tribute. You are truly lucky and blessed to have such a fantastic union. Have a wonderful weekend.

  6. I really like this quote: He didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it. ~Clarence Budington Kelland. I’d never heard it before.

    Happy Father’s Day, Dirt Man!!!

  7. What a beautiful tribute to your husband. The last part of this post where you describe how he wore his cardboard tie to church and how proud that made your son is just priceless.

  8. That tie was really his heart; just in a different shape. You and your family are blessed. No doubt that your sons will great fathers, and always wonderful men. Heartspell

  9. What an absolutely beautiful tribute to your husband on fathers day! He sounds like a wonderful man – I especially liked that he wore the cardboard tie – that is awesome!

  10. What a great post! Dirtman has always had my admiration. I always look foward to his company. His is the last of the true southern gentlemen. When we are together(the two families) I look at the beautiful kids and smile knowing how well we as parents have done. I am humbled in Dirtman’s presence. Love Dwight

  11. A dad like this is a gift and a treasure. Your boys will be forever blessed…

    next on my iPod: Have a Cigar – Pink Floyd. LOL! I always listen when I get home from work or while on the pc.

  12. Very Nice Suzicate,

    That last picture took me back to the good old Cub Scout Days, you have a good man there pass a Happy Fathers Day along to him from us.

  13. It is moments like what you shared (the cardboard tie) in which I remember why I love my husband so very much. He, too, would wear the cardboard tie without any shame.

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