Are You Hearing Voices In Your Head Or Is That Your Cell Phone?

Mostly Grocery got me to thinking about this subject.

Are you a courteous cell phone user? I am.

I also do not talk on my cell phone while driving. That’s due to the fact that I don’t trust myself to be coordinated enough. Heck, I don’t even fumble with the radio, ipod, or CD’s.  Most people are perfectly able to carry on a phone converstion without being distracted from driving. I’m not one of those. In fact, if I’m am your driver, you’re better off not to even talk to me until we’ve stopped. Hey, I never claimed to be a great driver. But I am honest, so when I dish it, I don’t exclude myself!

If I must have a cell phone conversation while in public, I make it quick and to the point. I do not talk while I am in line to check out. That is plain rude and annoying to others. If my phone beeps, I don’t answer it. I return the call after I’ve left the store. This reminds me of the time I was walking through Dress Barn and an emegency siren sound went off. Dang, it sounded awfully close to me. When I got to the counter, everyone stared at me. I looked back and said, it’s not me. The cashier politely told me it was from my purse hanging from my shoulder. I could have died from embarrassment. My dear and loving Dirt Man (without my knowledge) had set my phone tone from home calls to an emergency signal. With a red face, I apologized and explained that my husband was a butt head, and I didn’t find it funny.

There is nothing more irritating than having someone trying to talk to you while conducting a phone conversation.

There are such people that talk or text nonstop. I’m talking about the one’s who are talking (often on a headset) while shopping. Like I or anyone else really cares to hear their conversations. And they are rude to their fellow shoppers, and don’t even stop talking long enough to answer the cashier or baggers questions. They flat out ignore them! Like they are better than the person trying to help them.

I realize that on occasion, one does receive or must make an important call even in the presence of others and it’s one that can’t wait. I am only referring to people who have the constant need to be validated by their cell phone connection.

I’m talking about the people who are trying to conduct business with you, but only nod because they are so caught up in their conversations. And I’m not only speaking of business phone interactions here, these are conversations about what cute dress someone bought, whose kid did what, and who got a promotion. Basically idle gossip…maybe fun but not newsworthy. When people used to do that to me, I felt unimportant to them. Now, I question if they are worthy of my undivided attention when they are requesting it. Generally, these same people would be horrified if someone did the same thing to them.

Don’t even get me started with people who receive or make calls during a movie, meeting, or even church! There are people out there who actually do this!

I have come to the conclusion, or ok, it’s just my opinion, that these are people who:

have jobs that can not conduct business without them,

are so super important that the world will stop rotation if they shut up for five seconds,

 must have constant reassurance of their worth from others,

OR

They are just plain butt heads.

50 thoughts on “Are You Hearing Voices In Your Head Or Is That Your Cell Phone?

  1. Buttheads. No one is that important. I will occasionally talk on my cell while shopping but always tell my caller that I’m ready to check out and I’ll have to go. As a retail worker, I hated people who talked on their cells while I was ringing them up, ect. So I refuse to be that rude.

    I also talk when driving, but only on the highway. Since it’s a 30 minute commute, relatively flat, and not heavy traffic I feel comfortable enough to talk. Unless it’s raining or snowing!!

    I hate those bluetooth things people wear. I never know if they are talking to me or someone else. Lol.

    ♥Spot

  2. Agreed! I get disproportionately irritated by folks yammering away or texting on cell phones in public. More so when they’re EMPLOYEES at whose mercy I have to be — most recently, for an eye appointment. I think I stood at the check-in counter for a good few minutes (with no one else in line ahead of me) before the receptionist looked up from her iPhone without so much as an apology and said, “Your name?”

    I gave her my best teacher look, then gave her the requested information with just enough steel in the tone to make the nurse five feet away glance up. She took one look at the iPhone still in the girl’s hand and gave me a sympathetic smile.

  3. I think talking on a cell phone in the car is dangerous, whether it’s hands free or not. It’s the concentrating on a conversation while driving; we can’t do both effectively. I pull over to text if I must. And I’ll answer if it’s a kid and get off within seconds. I’m now making the car a no-cell phone zone even for kids. They’ll be allowed to answer if it’s a time thing, and then get off. And texting can wait while we’re driving short distances. People in stores kill me; like I care about their conversations. I think we’ll look back on this time before cell phone etiquette was established. It’s crazy! Remember back when we were kids; if the phone rang you left the room. People would have killed you if you sat there in front of them (even your family) and just kept talkiing in a normal voice.
    Good post!

  4. Where did professional behavior go? I would be mortified if someone caught me on my cell phone at work! (When I used to work, that is.) Yes, I have texted and/or called while working, but only if I was on my break or completely alone without any tasks to finish.

    I do use my phone while driving. I would much rather hear my husband, friend, or mom than my screaming child in the background. ; ) Seriously, often I call to calm my nerves and help me focus on traffic.

    I don’t mind using my phone while shopping, I just try and keep the conversation quiet. It is also usually quick primarily because my daughter and/or son is having a melt down and I need both hands.

  5. It’s recently become illegal here to drive while talking on a cellphone (I think headsets are still okay). I’ve never done it, except for the briefest of exchanges, because I just don’t think drivers should allow ANY unnecessary distractions while driving — too much can go wrong too quickly.

    I simply cannot wrap my head around people who natter away on their cellphones in public. To me it’s the rudest, unclassiest, most narcissistic behaviour imaginable, and I can’t believe their lack of self-consciousness. And I have hissed at people to quit flashing their bright Blackberry screen in my eyes at the movie. For crying out loud, if you want to surf the net, stay home, don’t pay ten bucks to see a freaking movie!

  6. Yep, I’m going with the butthead trend. Think of how all the improvements in time-saving devices has really brought out the best in us. I know of some churches that have designed their structures to “deaden” cell phone signals. Oh, that we could do that to entire communities……EFH

  7. My worst cell phone experience was when I walked outside my building at work and found the wife of a co-worker standing outside. As I walked near her, she was talking and I thought she was talking to me. So I went up closer to hear better and said “What? I didn’t hear.” But when I got close enough, I realized she had a bluetooth device in her ear and she was conducting a conversation with someone by phone. I was mortified because 1) I acted all excited to talk to her, and 2) because she completely ignored me and kept right on talking to the person on the other end. I had no choice but to just slink away.

  8. I think I am a semi-bad cellphone user. I don’t talk on the phone in the car because I am a bad driver. But I do talk on the phone while I am waiting in line at Trader Joe’s – but I live in NYC and the line literally takes 15 minutes! I also talk on the phone while riding in the backs of taxis. But I think that is okay since the driver is doing the exact same thing!

  9. I hate it when a cashier is talking on their cell phone when they are “trying” to wait on me. I do think that is rude. And the movies or church. That KILLS me. Don’t they have a silent/vibrate mode on their phone? Ans what could be so important that it can’t wait until the end of the service or movie? If you MUST answer it then…LEAVE THE ROOM and keep it on silent/vibrate. No one else needs to be endlessly annoyed. And don’t even get me started on when someone does NOT have theirs on silent/vibrate and in the middle of church/movie/meeting they do NOT even bother to hit the ignore button or turn it off. They just let it keep ringing until the person on the other end gives up or it goes to voice mail. And have had some people let it happen over and over in a row. GET A CLUE people! Ok, I’m better now…..

  10. I don’t talk on my cell in the car anymore, and definitely not when I’m out w/ friends, or at dinner, or in the checkout line, etc..and I can’t stand when someone doesn’t show me the same courtesy. Yes, there are special situations, and you can make it quick. but otherwise? please take it outside!

  11. OMG, that cartoon made me laugh out loud! I could not agree with your more!

    I worked as a manager of a dinner club a while back. A customer came in, I politely greeted him and asked him if would like to start out with a drink at the bar and he turns his head, points to his blue tooth and has this angry look on his face.

    I was like “how the fuck did I know you were on the phone?”

    And two weeks ago – when Tony and I were at the movies, a man answered his cell phone and proceeded to describe the movie to the person on the phone!!

    Hope you are having a great weekend!

  12. A student in my class got a call from his mom. A little irritated, I asked if he would like to share the conversation with the class. He put her on speaker and we all said, “Hi, Mom!” When the conversation was finished, she said, “Love you C—–.” We all said, “Love you too, Mom!” He probably won’t keep his phone on in class anymore.

  13. Interesting…cell phones have been heavy in the blogosphere lately with one overarching conclusion–the masses are sick and tired of the rudeness. For some reason, technology seems to excused people from common etiquette. For Pete’s sake! What are people thinking? Check out the Etiquette Bitch blog. It’s hilarious.

  14. Butt heads.
    Annoying, rude, arrogant, condescending, inconsiderate, selfish, egotistical, self important, impolite, haughty, bad-mannered, boorish, graceless, churlish, loutish, uncouth, unrefined, vulgar, coarse, crude, immature, sophomoric, hemorrhoidal, ignorant, impudent….

    Oh, don’t get me started.

  15. Total buttheads.
    And I personally think talking/texting while driving is reprehensible. What’s really disgusting is that the deaths of people who have been killed because some idiot was blabbing on the phone or texting were 100% PREVENTABLE. ONE. HUNDRED. PERCENT. Someone just killed someone else’s son, daughter, brother, sister… because they *had* to answer that text “what u doin?.” Ok anyway. Sorry, I’m being a total comment hog!!

    -Jen

  16. OMG…you have no idea how much I agree with you, SC!

    This is one of my MAJOR vents.

    I have written coutless posts on my blog about this same exact thing. Nothing irritates me more than cell phone users that have no consideration for anyone around them. Living in a city it’s worse, because I’m constantly in contact with people who are either walking next to me or standing next to me in lines TALKING ON THEIR CELL PHONES!!!!!!

    My major pet peeve about cell phones are the people who have fights with their significant other so that the WHOLE world can hear them.

    I could go on and on about this, but I won’t. I’ll just say one more thing…

    …I don’t own a cell phone.

    tee hee.

  17. 1. I told my best friend that she should have her phone permanently glued to her ear, or she should just live her life texting. She would text ALL the time, even when we were trying to hang out. Finally, during one of our converstaions, (I knew she wasn’t paying attention), I sent her a text that said, “Hey. I’m having fun at dinner. What about you?” She got the hint. She no longer uses her phone when we hang out.

    2. My car was totaled in November. How? A teenage girl was texting on her phone. She wasn’t paying attention. Luckily, I only received a horrible whiplash. No one was injured terribly. The worst part? She didn’t think it was a big deal.

  18. Okay, okay, okay, it’s ME! I’m sorry! I’m a butthead, rude, inconsiderate….might as well paint a big sign on my back.

    In my defense my MOM talks forever, CALLS me all the time, and I’ll do anything to get my call in and DONE while I’m multi-tasking – like driving or shopping.

    I don’t use the blue tooth though I am holding the phone with an aching arm.

    “Mom, I gotta go…I’m leaving a blog comment. What? You got ANOTHER dog. Really mom 25 is TOO many for sixty-six year old widow living alone. How much does all that food cost? (OMG!) Mom I’m leaving a comment, now we are disturbing people. It’s sooo rude. I. Gotta. Go.”

    Apologies all around. 🙂

  19. I’m with you on the buttheads comment. Seriously. How DID people get by without cell phones??? I got a call from my mom during my final yesterday (online, timed final – could not stop). Why did I answer??? Because I’m an idiot and I should have known better. Sometimes though, I think we answer out of sheer curiosity.

    By the way, Albertson’s has cheese for $1.00 in Boise, Idaho.

  20. I agree with you 100% it is rude for people to be that hung up on a cell phone, I have seen some who get into their car and dial before buckling up and starting the car, heck I get in the car to get away from the phone, and talking about the bluetooth devices I have come up against people who I couldn’t tell if they were talking to me or not, have got some funny looks when I answer them.

  21. Hmm, yes and no. I mean yes. Wait, what was the question?

    The only place I can talk on the phone is in the car since the kids attack me otherwise. I am mindful to NEVER take my eyes off of the road and will hang up if the traffic is too heavy since I want to focus on that. I don’t even answer the home phone and call people back after bedtime. But… I will never go through a checkout line or drive thru or restaurant on my phone, I HATE that.

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