I was flipping through reading some blogs and came across a whiplash over something a blogger posted in a meager attempt to be funny. There was a tremendous fury among bloggers over it. I read their responses to it , but not the actual post as she deleted it. These rebuttals named the blog by title, but I will not. I will say it is NOT a blog I normally read nor were the ones commenting and posting their own takes on it. In fact I did come across it once but it just wasn’t the sort of blog that catches my interest. Anyway, from my understanding of the responses, this blogger posted something about the behavior of a child in a public venue and blamed it on poor parenting. I’d say most of us have been guilty of judging other people’s parenting skills at one time or another due to their child’s behavior. Personally, it has always come back to bite me in the butt! Any time I’ve opened my trap, one of my kids would turn around and do something to top what I had complained about!
Anyway, the episode this woman described appeared to point to a particular disease according to those familiar with the disease. Now, no one knows (it is an assumption) whether this child had the disease or was acting like a spoiled child as she put it. This woman never said anything to the adult in charge or the child. She minded her own business. She wrote about it on her blog in an effort to be humorous. She was accused of being insensitive to the disease because they thought she should have known the symptoms. I honestly don’t know that I would have recognized the symptoms. I am by no way dismissing the disease, I am being honest about my ability to recognize it as such. I know as wrong as it might be, I have silently thought certain children were behaving horribly in public and blamed their parents for not controlling them. I don’t know whether these particular children had medical conditions that warranted that behavior or if they were just ill behaved. The point I feel is that these people who jumped all over this lady for being insensitive and “ignorant” of the disease were doing the same thing they accused her of doing. Then, apparently when she apologized there were still complaints that she might have said she was sorry but was not educating herself or advocating the disease. Come on, how many of us know the symptoms of every disease? How many of them do we advocate for unless we are directly affected by them? I just think the whole thing is a bit unsettling.
Have you ever been insulted about something in your life? Have your feelings really been hurt? What did you do about it? I’ve raised an ADD child and one who was diagnosed as ADHD, but later deemed misdiagnosed. Anyway, I know a lot of us talk about our ADD or our Alzheimer’s. Most people are ok with others using those terms. Then there are the jokes about rednecks, Polacks, and blondes. And we laugh, don’t we?
I speak with a lisp. I hate it, but I can’t make it go away. I’ve learned to live with it. When I was younger I was teased a little over it. I had to learn to toughen up. As an adult, I might still be teased, but most people are respectful because it’s not something I can help. Once, I interviewed for a job and the dentist who interviewed me told me that life must be very difficult for me in trying to overcome such a difficult obstacle. I was floored and didn’t know how to respond because my lisp is only slight, quite minor compared to some speech impediments. I’m sure you know that I didn’t get that job. But what is ironic about it is that the very same day I had another interview and was hired by another dentist who was his BEST FRIEND. Talk about irony. So, this man had to deal with me on a weekly basis referring patients and scheduling their lunches. I worked for this dentist for almost ten years. He actually refused my resignation when I decided to quit to stay home with my children and held my job for three months in case I changed my mind. Gee, sorry, I went off on a tangent there. I guess what I’m saying is that my feelings were hurt, but I didn’t raise a stink over it. I really don’t think he realized he was insensitive. I think he was probably curious. I’m telling you this to let you know that I have been ridiculed, and I have also judged others. Having been on both sides of the fence, I don’t think the grass is greener on either side.
I find it odd that we’re critical and judgmental and at the same time have become an overly politically- correct nation. But it all depends on whose feathers are ruffled. I think the various realms of our society picks and chooses who or what is within limits of judgment. But isn’t judgment all together wrong? And then again, isn’t it only human to err?
Please tell me what you think, but don’t attack the messenger!
“We judge others by their behavior. We judge ourselves by our intentions.” ~ Ian Percy